Tuesday, 6 January 2015
I am crazy in love with my wife's best friend!!
This has been disturbing me for quite a long time. My wife's best friend is a caring and loving friend who understands and stood by her friend (my wife) during her agonising days. I came to know her after i proposed to my wife and within a Short period, I got married to my wife which her friend became her best maid. As time goes on close to a year, I began having feelings for her to the extend am confused. Despite the fact that I Love my wife so much, I do love her friend too to the extend I feel happy whenever she is around and if she left, I feel as if she has been taken away from me. she is almost my wife in character, understanding, Love and trust. Really I do Love her with all my heart. Now am in love with two women which one happens to be her best friend. Am confuse is it that am lusting after her (though I sometimes fantasied about her) or really am in Love with her ? Despite the fact I can't marry or make advances as in secretly going along with her, I am been overwhelmed by Love for her. (I even thought of keeping them both**Lol**) Is that possible? Loving two women equally? what are the scenarios associated with that? want ur views.
How to spot a good wife material..
1. She must be God-fearing
2. She must not be materialistic
3. She must show signs of being a good home maker
4. She must show signs of discipline
5. She must always be sensitive to your needs
6. She must not be crafty or being too smart
7. She must be humble and obey the man
8. Even if she is the rich one, she must be submissive (forget about all these feminist rubbish) a woman cannot make a home without a man.
9. She must not disclose her man's short-comings to a third party, not even parents.
10. She must always be cheerful.
If you are a Woman, score yourself over 10 and let's see if you are a good wife material.
2. She must not be materialistic
3. She must show signs of being a good home maker
4. She must show signs of discipline
5. She must always be sensitive to your needs
6. She must not be crafty or being too smart
7. She must be humble and obey the man
8. Even if she is the rich one, she must be submissive (forget about all these feminist rubbish) a woman cannot make a home without a man.
9. She must not disclose her man's short-comings to a third party, not even parents.
10. She must always be cheerful.
If you are a Woman, score yourself over 10 and let's see if you are a good wife material.
Relationship advise for 2015
The things below are what you need to show your lover from this 2015:
1. ATTENTION:
Do not make your lover feel that loneliness he or she felt previous years, do not make him/her feel abandoned and do not allow him/her cry over boredom. Listen to him/her whenever he/she wants to discus or tell you something. Make out time for him/her, give him/her the feelings that he/she has someone he/she is dating, respond to his/her pings and chats and dont always wait for him/her to be the first to start conversation or chat.
2. CARE:
Showing care to your lover doesnt only mean spending on him/her, it doesnt mean buying him/her the whole world. Show him/her some sense of belonging, let him/her know that he/she has a place in your heart, be there when he/she has problems, help him/her carry her burdens, stay with him/her in times of weakness and troubles.
3. CONCERN:
People always think that "CARE" and "CONCERN" are same but practically, they are not. You may care about someone but you may not show concern or be concerned about him/her. Showing care is trying to solve someone's problem, providing someone's needs in a little way you can, asking about someone's affairs, etc. Showing concern is when those problems, affairs and needs bother you and give you sleepless nights. Do not let him or her carry the burdens alone from this year.
4. TEACHING:
Nobody knows everything, nobody knows all. From this 2015, teach your lover those things you think he/she lacks which attracts you to other girls/guys. Impact in him/her new things, new good ideas, new relationship technics, new ways of showing love, etc. You dont walk away because he/she lacks some ideas, stay and help him/her out. You that is being taught, you owe him/her listening manners, listen because he/she means well for you and the relationship.
5. PEACE OF MIND:
Let the thoughts of you be like a cooling water to his/her soul and mind from now onwards, be the person he/she runs to and feels relaxed and comforted when troubled, dont give him/her any reason to feel disturbed.
6. SUPPORT:
Support him/her in his/her good dreams, good decisions, etc. Some people seem to leave their lovers when he/she makes a new decision such as "No sex", No excessive spendings", No Clubbings, etc. You dont need to start showing less love to your lover because he/she makes a new decision in the relationship rather you support him/her.
7. DIRECTION:
You dont need to quarrel with him/her when he/she makes a mistake, what you need to do is to correct and direct him/her. Nobody is perfect, so dont try to make case out of everything which can be controlled through direction.
8. ORGANISATION:
You need to organise yourself for him/her, you need to coordinate yourself for him/her. Make the work less stressful for him/her by organising your life and your place for him/her. You also need to help him/her organise himself/herself if he/she lacks this.
9. SINCERITY:
If you have not been sincere to him/her all these while, its time for you to appreciate the time he/she has sacrificed for you and with you till 2015. Be transparent, let him/her see himself/herslef through you, be open to him/her, let go that secrective nature of yours.
10. TRUST:
He/she needs your full trust from now. Stop doubting him/her, stop giving him/her the impression that he/she is cheating on you.
11. FAITHFULNESS:
If truly you love him/her, its about time you showed him some faithfulness, appreciate and reciprocate that love with faithfulness, I think he/she deserves it from you from now.
12. LEAVE HIM/HER:
If within you; you have checked very well and realised that both of you are not compartible, kindly and honourably leave him/her let him/her find that person that is meant for him/her instead of deceiving him/her.
1. ATTENTION:
Do not make your lover feel that loneliness he or she felt previous years, do not make him/her feel abandoned and do not allow him/her cry over boredom. Listen to him/her whenever he/she wants to discus or tell you something. Make out time for him/her, give him/her the feelings that he/she has someone he/she is dating, respond to his/her pings and chats and dont always wait for him/her to be the first to start conversation or chat.
2. CARE:
Showing care to your lover doesnt only mean spending on him/her, it doesnt mean buying him/her the whole world. Show him/her some sense of belonging, let him/her know that he/she has a place in your heart, be there when he/she has problems, help him/her carry her burdens, stay with him/her in times of weakness and troubles.
3. CONCERN:
People always think that "CARE" and "CONCERN" are same but practically, they are not. You may care about someone but you may not show concern or be concerned about him/her. Showing care is trying to solve someone's problem, providing someone's needs in a little way you can, asking about someone's affairs, etc. Showing concern is when those problems, affairs and needs bother you and give you sleepless nights. Do not let him or her carry the burdens alone from this year.
4. TEACHING:
Nobody knows everything, nobody knows all. From this 2015, teach your lover those things you think he/she lacks which attracts you to other girls/guys. Impact in him/her new things, new good ideas, new relationship technics, new ways of showing love, etc. You dont walk away because he/she lacks some ideas, stay and help him/her out. You that is being taught, you owe him/her listening manners, listen because he/she means well for you and the relationship.
5. PEACE OF MIND:
Let the thoughts of you be like a cooling water to his/her soul and mind from now onwards, be the person he/she runs to and feels relaxed and comforted when troubled, dont give him/her any reason to feel disturbed.
6. SUPPORT:
Support him/her in his/her good dreams, good decisions, etc. Some people seem to leave their lovers when he/she makes a new decision such as "No sex", No excessive spendings", No Clubbings, etc. You dont need to start showing less love to your lover because he/she makes a new decision in the relationship rather you support him/her.
7. DIRECTION:
You dont need to quarrel with him/her when he/she makes a mistake, what you need to do is to correct and direct him/her. Nobody is perfect, so dont try to make case out of everything which can be controlled through direction.
8. ORGANISATION:
You need to organise yourself for him/her, you need to coordinate yourself for him/her. Make the work less stressful for him/her by organising your life and your place for him/her. You also need to help him/her organise himself/herself if he/she lacks this.
9. SINCERITY:
If you have not been sincere to him/her all these while, its time for you to appreciate the time he/she has sacrificed for you and with you till 2015. Be transparent, let him/her see himself/herslef through you, be open to him/her, let go that secrective nature of yours.
10. TRUST:
He/she needs your full trust from now. Stop doubting him/her, stop giving him/her the impression that he/she is cheating on you.
11. FAITHFULNESS:
If truly you love him/her, its about time you showed him some faithfulness, appreciate and reciprocate that love with faithfulness, I think he/she deserves it from you from now.
12. LEAVE HIM/HER:
If within you; you have checked very well and realised that both of you are not compartible, kindly and honourably leave him/her let him/her find that person that is meant for him/her instead of deceiving him/her.
Top Ten Strangest Thing Women Do
1. Using men as emotional crutch
2. Becoming irrationally jealous
3. Expecting an answer to rhetorical questions
4. Wanting conflicting things
5. Fighting about dead issue
6. Having no honor among themselves (fighting over a man)
7. Chasing after a married man
8. Expecting their minds to be read
9. Befriending gay men
10. Reading too deeply to what men say
( like oh...so now i'm not pretty enough for you)
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2. Becoming irrationally jealous
3. Expecting an answer to rhetorical questions
4. Wanting conflicting things
5. Fighting about dead issue
6. Having no honor among themselves (fighting over a man)
7. Chasing after a married man
8. Expecting their minds to be read
9. Befriending gay men
10. Reading too deeply to what men say
( like oh...so now i'm not pretty enough for you)
u can add urz
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